Finding Calm In Chaos: How to Overcome Media Hype and Overwhelm

Finding Calm In Chaos: How to Overcome Media Hype and Overwhelm

If you’re ready to overcome media hype, you’re in the right place. Media is a business architecting messages of chaos and dishing them up 24/7. Hype saturation is contributing to our mental health crisis but chaos, stress, and overwhelm don’t have to be our reality. We can thrive- together.

This week, we’re talking about how to find calm in the chaos, ditch the overwhelm and take charge of our reality with three human  “power tools”-  mindfulness, intuition, and mirror neurons. It’s my hope that you will leave this episode a little wiser, feeling empowered, and reminded of how awesome it is to be a human.

Deep gratitude to…

@sherylcrow for her beautiful quote that kick started my thinking for this podcast, to Jon Kabat-Zinn for his immense body of work in the field of mindfulness, and to all of the phenomenal humans who are dedicating their lives to researching neuroscience, consciousness, and our incredible human potential.

Resources Cited: 

Intuitive Intelligence, Self- regulation, and Lifting Consciousness 

Mirror Neuron: The Unit of Imitative Mind and Its Clinical Applicability

If you’re ready to develop a mindset of confidence and clarity that will help you live your best life, I’d love to meet you. Send me a note  and tell me what’s on your mind. Let’s explore what’s possible for your life through mindfulness based life coaching. ❤️

Wisdom From My Mother On Courage and Reinventing Your Career After 45

Wisdom From My Mother On Courage and Reinventing Your Career After 45

WISDOM FROM MY MOTHER ON REINVENTING YOUR CAREER AFTER 45

TRANSCRIPT

SPEAKER_1: You’re listening to She Grabs The Mic, and I’m your host, Cole Baker-Bagwell.

SPEAKER_1: Every week, we’ll explore what it means to be happy, present and whole.

SPEAKER_1: You’ll hear from courageous women who are kicking ass in their lives, and leave with actionable tips that you can apply to reset from toxicity, tune into your gold, and live powerfully from the bedroom to the boardroom.

SPEAKER_1: Right now, it’s time to grab your headphones, kick back and relax, and get ready to be inspired.

SPEAKER_1: Welcome, Amazing Ones!

SPEAKER_1: We have an extra special guest this week.

SPEAKER_1: My mom, Pat, AKA Peaches.

SPEAKER_1: She’s an inspirational woman who is the epitome of the 1970s Anjali campaign, strong, sassy, and packed with general badassery.

SPEAKER_1: You are absolutely going to love our conversation.
SPEAKER_1: This week, my mom and I are talking about reinventing your career after 45.

SPEAKER_1: Peaches is going to share her She Grabs The Mic story of going from playing it safe to taking a big ass leap.

SPEAKER_1: Mom, welcome! I am so glad that you’re here with me today.

SPEAKER_2: Thank you.

SPEAKER_2: I’m delighted to be here.

SPEAKER_1: Awesome!

SPEAKER_1: Okay, you’ve always been an entrepreneur of sorts.

SPEAKER_1: Before we get rolling today, tell me about two to three of your favorite little business ideas that you had.

SPEAKER_2: Well, I think probably my first great little business idea was making cheese.

SPEAKER_2: My aunt had a wonderful cheese recipe, and she used to make it for like Thanksgiving, homecoming events, Christmas.

SPEAKER_2: And as she had gotten older, she quit making it.

SPEAKER_2: And one day I decided I needed to make some extra money.

SPEAKER_2: So I went for the plunge.

SPEAKER_2: My aunt said, that cheese will never sell.

SPEAKER_2: You’re not going to do that.

SPEAKER_2: So I got a friend.

SPEAKER_2: And she and I, I researched everything.

SPEAKER_2: I had to go to the health department.

SPEAKER_2: I had to get containers.

SPEAKER_2: I had to make labels and figure out how to buy the products at a rate or at a price rather, so that when I charged for the cheese that I was about to prepare, I would make a little money.

SPEAKER_2: I was really ahead of the game because some of my kids went to school with Bobby Ukrop, who was a great big grocer in Richmond, Virginia.

SPEAKER_2: So I went to Bobby and I said, Bobby, I want to bring you some cheese for your wife to try, and tell me whether you think it will sell in your store.

SPEAKER_2: Well, Bobby took the cheese home and he said, Pat, I wasn’t in the house an hour before my wife said, buy all that darn cheese you can buy.

SPEAKER_2: That’s how the cheese business started.

SPEAKER_2: So, it turned out to be a raging success.

SPEAKER_1: What was your favorite part about the cheese business?

SPEAKER_2: My favorite part about the cheese business was having the enormous amount of cheese delivered to my house.

SPEAKER_2: And the neighbors were saying, oh my God, what is the truck doing in front of your house with all that cheese?

SPEAKER_2: And I would say very calmly, oh, we’re making cheese to sell. SPEAKER_2: And it was called fromage delight.

SPEAKER_2: Doesn’t that sound sassy?

SPEAKER_2: Sounded so sassy that people could not resist buying it.

SPEAKER_1: All right, that’s awesome.

SPEAKER_1: Entrepreneur, she invented this woman like dreamed up ski pants for women with a flap between your legs to pee without having to take off all the clothes.

SPEAKER_1: Like countless ideas.

SPEAKER_1: I mean, this is where I get it from.

SPEAKER_1: All right, so we’re gonna shift gears here a little bit, mom.

SPEAKER_1: Ageism, gender inequality and pay inequality are very real issues for working women.

SPEAKER_1: I mean, so many people in America are facing this right now.

SPEAKER_1: And this is especially pronounced for women like me, like you, over 45.

SPEAKER_1: The labor researchers actually classify me as an older woman.

SPEAKER_1: What do you think about that?

SPEAKER_2: By God, I think that’s terrible.

SPEAKER_2: She’s not older.

SPEAKER_2: She’s just getting started in life.

SPEAKER_1: All right, I agree.

SPEAKER_1: I mean, my God, over 45 and you’re an older woman, amazing ones, we have to change this whole way of talking about ourselves when we get to be over 45.

SPEAKER_1: I will take experienced.

SPEAKER_1: I will take seasoned, wise, sassy, strong.

SPEAKER_1: I will not accept older under any terms or conditions because I’m not older.

SPEAKER_1: I feel 25, and my mother is sitting here beside me and living proof that you are only as old as you feel.

SPEAKER_1: She, I won’t tell you how many revolutions, but they’ve been more than 45 around the sun.

SPEAKER_1: And this woman is extraordinary.

SPEAKER_1: So for all of you listening who are in this club over the 45 club, we’re just getting started, like Peaches said.

SPEAKER_1: All right, back to you, Peaches.

SPEAKER_1: So before we get in to how you landed in the low country, tell us what you learned across your career about some of the challenges you faced as a razor sharp, talented-as-shit woman in the medical field.

SPEAKER_2: I was very fortunate in that physicians came after me and offered me positions. I never really had to look for a job.

SPEAKER_2: My first best job after I graduated, well, I went through many, many phases of hospital life.

SPEAKER_2: I was in Europe for five years, doing hospital work there.

SPEAKER_2: And then when I came home, I was blessed.

SPEAKER_2: The gentleman who used to write all the urology sections for the medical books throughout the entire United States, somehow got my name and asked me to come to Norfolk, Virginia and interview with them.

SPEAKER_2: And I was thinking to myself, my God, what do those people know about me?

SPEAKER_2: Why am I going there?
 Well, anyway, to make a long story short, I was really blessed. I think when I was put here on this earth, I was meant to do medicine and raise three girls. And by the way, I never liked girls. When I was a little girl, I always preferred boys, and God got even with me. He gave me three beautiful girls.

SPEAKER_2: Pat Devine was kind of the spokesperson for that practice.

SPEAKER_2: And I think he kind of liked me right off the bat, and I kind of liked him, but neither one let on that we pretty much cared for each other.

SPEAKER_2: And finally, at the end of the interview, he said to me, well, Pat, you will be the first urological nurse practitioner in the United States.

SPEAKER_2: Number one, my practice has never had a nurse practitioner, so you’re going to have to put up with all the residents and the interns here.

SPEAKER_2: And thirdly, if in three months I don’t like you, I can ask you to leave, and there will be no questions to ask.

SPEAKER_2: And then I took a deep breath, and I said, Dr. Devine, that sounds like a plan.

SPEAKER_2: And in three months, if I don’t like you, I can leave and no questions are asked.

SPEAKER_2: But you see, in the world that I grew up in, I grew up, my grandmother raised me, and my grandmother would love me with one hand and spank me with the other.

SPEAKER_2: And this is the thing that she always said.

SPEAKER_2: Tricia, you can do anything in the world that you want to do.

SPEAKER_2: Always present yourself like a lady and never say no.

SPEAKER_2: So I was a little bit of a daring woman, I think, in that I spoke my mind.

SPEAKER_2: And I think in any situation, even today, if you speak up and present yourself in such a manner, men will have to look up to you and respect you.

SPEAKER_2: They will say, hmm, not here.

SPEAKER_2: I was the only woman in a practice with 13 men, with six residents and five interns, and I never once had any disrespect shown to me.

SPEAKER_1: All right.
SPEAKER_1: So talk to me a little bit about pay. There are enormous pay gaps now. Women are paid 70 cents on the dollar what men are paid.

SPEAKER_1: What was that like for you back in the day, being a nurse practitioner in a primarily male- dominated medical field full of doctors and surgeons and other?

SPEAKER_1: What did you notice?

SPEAKER_2: Well, I went into this kind of practice with a lot of trepidation because I knew I’d be at the bottom of the totem pole.

SPEAKER_2: I was a woman.

SPEAKER_2: I was not an MD, but I was very smart.

SPEAKER_2: And I knew that I could do anything that was required of me.

SPEAKER_2: And the pledge that Dr. Devine kind of made with me, he said, Pat, if in six months you can do everything that my residents can do, I will pay you equal pay to them.

SPEAKER_2: And by God, in six months, some of those guys didn’t like it, but after a while they learned to respect me because they learned that I didn’t whine.

SPEAKER_2: I went in, I did my job, washed my hands and was ready for the next go-round.  I didn’t really experience any pay inequality. In the hospital I did, but not with these guys.

SPEAKER_1: Okay, so in the hospital, and you think back now about self-advocacy for what you deserve to be paid, what do you think was important?

SPEAKER_2: I think people today don’t value a human being.

SPEAKER_2: I think they look at you as here is someone that’s going to warm the seat and get the job done.

SPEAKER_2: You have to speak up for yourself.
SPEAKER_2: You have to lay out your requirements before you even entertain a job.

SPEAKER_2: And if they want you bad enough, they will pay you a little more.

SPEAKER_2: I just don’t believe that women will ever, even though this is a woman’s world today, don’t get me wrong, you just look around.

SPEAKER_2: All the CEOs in these big corporations are becoming women. Why?
SPEAKER_2: Women are task-oriented.
SPEAKER_2: They don’t bicker.

SPEAKER_2: They get the job done.

SPEAKER_2: They put their heads like my daughter, who is brilliant.

SPEAKER_2: She can do anything in the world that she wants to do.

SPEAKER_2: Just give her a task, and boy, she will measure up.

SPEAKER_2: And I think today as maybe we progress a little more, people are going to realize that women are not going to work with a lesser pay scale than men.

SPEAKER_1: So let’s move into, thank you for all the points you made about pay.

SPEAKER_1: I heard you saying that you had to work six months to get the pay that the residents got, but that you had a very generous boss that recognized your value, and you spoke up for what you needed, and that’s one of the tips you’re sharing with women today.

SPEAKER_1: So I could not agree more.

SPEAKER_1: So let’s head into 1990, just before you landed in the Lowcountry.

SPEAKER_1: What was life like for you back then?

SPEAKER_1: Specifically, what were some of the financial challenges that you were facing?

SPEAKER_2: Boy, that’s a loaded question.

SPEAKER_2: I had three girls, two of them were in college.

SPEAKER_2: My husband, this was my second marriage, my husband had three children, they were all in college.

SPEAKER_2: He came home one day, we were not married at that time, we were about ready to get married, and he said, Pat, I think I’m going to quit Carolina.

SPEAKER_2: And I was at Duke, Ken was at Carolina, UNC.
SPEAKER_2: He had been there for 27 years as a brilliant teacher and a researcher.

SPEAKER_2: He came home and he said, I think I’m going to quit.
SPEAKER_2: I said, you’re going to quit?
SPEAKER_2: He said, yep, I want to start a practice.
SPEAKER_2: And I said, well, I don’t know who will work for you because you don’t know how to work.

SPEAKER_2: All you do is teach and do research.

SPEAKER_2: I said, I’ll tell you what.

SPEAKER_2: I’ll run an ad in the paper for you, and we’ll see if we can, you know, round up some people that would like to work for you.

SPEAKER_2: I said, you’re so smart that I think people probably would grab the opportunity.

SPEAKER_2: Well, he didn’t seem to kind of buy that idea.
SPEAKER_2: And a week went by and he said, I have a great idea, Pat.
SPEAKER_2: Why don’t you come to work with me?

SPEAKER_2: You know medicine so well.
SPEAKER_2: And I went, I hate what you do, Ken.
SPEAKER_2: I am not, I’m a surgical human being.
SPEAKER_2: You are a medical thinker.
SPEAKER_2: I will never learn that.
SPEAKER_2: He said, oh, yes, you will.
SPEAKER_2: You already know medicine, so please come to work with me.

SPEAKER_2: I said, well, we’ll probably be divorced in five minutes.
SPEAKER_2: Well, anyway, he told his colleagues at Carolina that he was going to resign.

SPEAKER_2: This is really what started the ball rolling.
SPEAKER_2: They said to Ken in the parking lot, not in an office, you’re going to fail. SPEAKER_2: You have no idea what it’s like in the private world.

SPEAKER_2: You’ll never make it.

SPEAKER_2: He came home and told me that.

SPEAKER_2: I went, by God, we’ll prove them wrong.

SPEAKER_2: We’re going to be the most successful people that they have seen in a long time.

SPEAKER_2: So people started calling from all over the United States to Ken because he was so well known for a lot of the work that he had done.

SPEAKER_2: And I kept saying, we’re not going west. SPEAKER_2: We’re not going north.
SPEAKER_2: We’re going south.
SPEAKER_2: We have kids in college.

SPEAKER_2: This is the world that we have to live in.

SPEAKER_2: So we landed in Charleston, South Carolina with probably two nickels to rub together in our purse.

SPEAKER_2: We didn’t know anyone.
SPEAKER_2: We had no connections there with prior medical students, professors, friends.

SPEAKER_2: So we just decided, I said, Ken, we’ll find a place to practice, and we will make it work.

SPEAKER_2: So we took an old building.
SPEAKER_2: We renovated it.
SPEAKER_2: We started this practice.
SPEAKER_2: Within about two years, we bought a piece of property.
SPEAKER_2: We sat on that piece of property, and about nine years later, we built our own practice.

SPEAKER_2: When we retired, we had 20,000 patients.
SPEAKER_2: People came from everywhere.
SPEAKER_2: People even came from Korea.

SPEAKER_2: How about that?

SPEAKER_1: People came from Korea.

SPEAKER_1: What did you learn about yourself during that whole experience that was most meaningful?

SPEAKER_2: Oh, I learned…

SPEAKER_2: I didn’t have to learn this.

SPEAKER_2: I knew this.

SPEAKER_2: I knew that you had to love people like they were your family, treat everybody the same, no matter their socioeconomic background, and be kind to everyone.

SPEAKER_1: And what did you learn about yourself?

SPEAKER_2: I learned that I was tough as a bull.

SPEAKER_1: And what did it mean to work for yourself for 30 years?

SPEAKER_2: Well, amazingly enough, people would say to us all the time, how in the world do you and Ken go to work 12 hours a day, almost 7 days a week, and still live together?

SPEAKER_2: I said, well, Ken goes in one direction, seeing patients, and I go in the other.

SPEAKER_2: We love each other.

SPEAKER_2: We were committed to what we were doing.

SPEAKER_2: And actually, it was a wonderful experience to be able to know that I could learn from such a brilliant man, and we had such a great practice.

SPEAKER_1: So a lot of people talk about retiring mom at 60-something.

SPEAKER_1: Again, I won’t share how many revolutions you have, but you were not even close to 60-something when you retired from your practice.

SPEAKER_1: You stayed on much longer after that.

SPEAKER_1: What kept you there?
SPEAKER_2: Oh, what kept me there? Love of our patients.

SPEAKER_2: You see, another strange thing, living in Charleston, we didn’t have any family there.

SPEAKER_2: My kids were everywhere, and they had children, and they were all busy. Ken’s children were everywhere.
SPEAKER_2: They were busy and had children.

SPEAKER_2: So my patients became my family.

SPEAKER_2: And my family there, those people kept me there.

SPEAKER_2: They needed us.

SPEAKER_2: Yes, I was much beyond the age of 60.

SPEAKER_2: I went around the sun a lot more years after that.

SPEAKER_2: And truly, if my husband wanted to retire at 75, and if he had wanted to stay in practice, I would have stayed right there with him.

SPEAKER_2: I still miss it every single day.

SPEAKER_1: So as you think about the work that you did in that practice, what are you most proud of?

SPEAKER_2: Oh, I think I’m most proud that we went there.

SPEAKER_2: We were the only true 100% endocrine practice in the state of South Carolina.

SPEAKER_2: No one could do all of the things that my husband could do.

SPEAKER_2: Since he had been a teacher, he knew everything from the top of your head to the tip of your toes.

SPEAKER_2: And most people that did endocrine, they either did diabetes, or they did thyroid disease, or they did menopause, or they did something.

SPEAKER_2: We did it all.
SPEAKER_2: It was just the most amazing experience to learn every single day and to see people as…

SPEAKER_2: A woman that’s my very dear friend that worked for us, she said, Pat, those people loved you and Dr. Gray.

SPEAKER_2: She said, You were not just their doctor, you were their friend.

SPEAKER_2: And you know, when you have a situation like that, I wish medical practices were like it today.

SPEAKER_2: People never had to wait when they had a phone call, they got an answer.

SPEAKER_2: We didn’t leave and go out of town and prescriptions were not filled and people didn’t know what was going on.

SPEAKER_2: We really took care of people as if they were our immediate family.

SPEAKER_2: And that was the most gratifying thing in the world, to go home at night and put your head on the pillow and know that you had done a good job.

SPEAKER_1: Okay, so what are you most proud of when it comes to the decision you made to get out of the safety of a big organization, take the leap and go work for yourself?

SPEAKER_2: Well, I’m proud that we had the courage to do it. SPEAKER_2: I’m proud that we had the tenacity to do it. SPEAKER_2: I’m proud that we knew that we were never going to fail.

SPEAKER_2: I mean, there is not a day in my life I still own the building that we built, and there is not a day in my life that I don’t walk into that building or go by that building, that I am so proud of all of the people that we loved and left behind, that still, you know, I still get phone calls two or three times a week.

SPEAKER_2: And I have to remind people, you know, I don’t have a license anymore.

SPEAKER_2: You need to call your doctor.

SPEAKER_2: They said, well, they don’t answer the phone, and Pat, you know everything about us.

SPEAKER_2: So how could you not be so proud that you have left behind some place in the world better than it was when you found it?

SPEAKER_1: I love that.
SPEAKER_1: That’s beautiful.

SPEAKER_1: Okay, Mom, last question.

SPEAKER_1: What piece of guidance would you offer to women who are over 45 and have a big dream like you had of, I mean, I don’t really even think you knew it was your dream at the time, but then it became your dream.

SPEAKER_1: So what is one piece of guidance that you would offer to women who are thinking about, like, oh, I’m getting ready to bust this joint and go do something on my own?

SPEAKER_1: What do you think is most important?
SPEAKER_1: One sage piece of advice from a woman who’s done it.

SPEAKER_2: Well, I think the most important thing is to know what you want, to plan ahead and try to figure out how you’re going to get it.

SPEAKER_2: I mean, you just can’t walk out the door with your suitcase in your hand and never come back.

SPEAKER_2: You absolutely have to be determined enough to know that when you walk out that door, you are not going back because you are going to find the dream that you were searching for and you’re willing to work as hard as you possibly have to to make that dream come true.

SPEAKER_2: And let me tell you, it takes hard work.

SPEAKER_2: It wasn’t a piece of cake.

SPEAKER_2: It didn’t happen overnight.

SPEAKER_2: I mean, Ken and I didn’t even have health insurance for a year because we had five kids in college and they had to have insurance.

SPEAKER_2: And I used to say, my grandmother used to tell me all the time, God looks after fools and drunks.

SPEAKER_2: I said, we must be the fool because we sure weren’t drunk, but we didn’t have any choice.

SPEAKER_2: But you know, if you love something enough and you want it badly enough, you will succeed.

SPEAKER_2: But I am telling you, it is not for wimps.

SPEAKER_2: It is for people who are strong, who are determined.

SPEAKER_2: And you have to love who you have to love yourself.

SPEAKER_2: You have to believe in yourself.

SPEAKER_2: And I hope you all have a grounded family and have someone that you love as much as my daughter loves that husband of hers and he loves her.

SPEAKER_2: And all of those things make something possible.

SPEAKER_1: Thank you! That’s a whole heap of tips.

SPEAKER_1: We heard strength.

SPEAKER_1: We heard courage.

SPEAKER_1: We heard tenacity.

SPEAKER_1: We heard don’t just pack your bag and think that it’s all going to work out.

SPEAKER_1: You’ve got to have a little bit of a plan.

SPEAKER_1: We heard loving what you do and having that vision for yourself, believing in yourself, having that sense of self-love, which is all super important.

SPEAKER_1: And I can attest to that.

SPEAKER_1: So if any of you are teetering on the edge, on the brink of leaving that big, comfy, cozy job you’ve been enjoying because you have a dream for yourself that is bigger, that is outside of that box, I can help you.

SPEAKER_1: Head to my website, colebakerbagwell.com.
SPEAKER_1: Hit my contact page and send me a note.
SPEAKER_1: And let’s talk about what’s possible for you.
Let’s talk about the steps because as Peaches said, you can’t just pack up and roll. I mean, you can, and I’m not sure how well that’s going to work out for you.

SPEAKER_1: But if you truly want to reinvent your life, if you want to reinvent your career and do makes your heart sing, there is a way to build your runway, and I can help.

SPEAKER_1: So again, head to my website, colebakerbagwell.com.
Let’s talk about what’s possible for you.
And in the meantime, I would like to thank this beautiful lady, Peaches Pat Gray, for joining us all the way from Charleston, South Carolina, and most importantly, for sharing her wisdom.

SPEAKER_1: Any parting words for these women?

SPEAKER_2: If you’re ever in Charleston, look me up. I’d love to entertain you.

SPEAKER_1: All right, Amazing Ones, until next time, be good to yourself and have a wonderful week!

SPEAKER_1: And that’s the end of the show today, everybody.

SPEAKER_1: I hope it has served you well.

SPEAKER_1: Thank you so much for tuning in.

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SPEAKER_1: Until next time, remember to be super kind to yourself and do your very best to leave everyone and everything just a little bit better.

You will leave this episode feeling inspired and heart warmed. And, if you’re flirting with the idea of reinventing your career and you don’t know where to start, I can help. Send me a note. I’d love to meet you. Let’s explore what’s possible for you, together. ❤️

What Deepak Chopra Taught Me About Stress, Seven Pillars And Our Power To Thrive

What Deepak Chopra Taught Me About Stress, Seven Pillars And Our Power To Thrive

I’d been waiting for years to hear Dr. Deepak Chopra speak live and in person. I finally had my day in the sun in March of 2023. As I sat on the edge of my seat listening to every wise word he spoke, the decades of my deep study, practice and work crystallized in way that blew my mind. Optimism and purpose washed over me as Dr. Chopra shared the latest medical science proving the correlation between stress, disease and the power we hold to be well. I scanned the few hundred faces in the packed auditorium and thought to myself, “Everyone on the planet needs to know this.”

Dr. Chopra shared that stress is the #1 health epidemic we’re facing today. He described it as “resistance to existence.” His lecture, entitled “The Future of Wellbeing” focused on the science of the mind-body-consciousness connection, the power we hold to be well and these (7) pillars that are critical in combatting stress to optimize our overall well being: 

  1. Sleep
  2. Meditation/Stress Management
  3. Movement/yoga/pranayama
  4. Emotional regulation
  5. Nourishment
  6. Bio rhythms/grounding 
  7. Self awareness and self realization

Dr. Chopra discussed the latest science that supports why each of these pillars have a positive impact. It was empowering to learn that less than 5% of the chronic illnesses we suffer from are genetically determined and 95% are influenced by epigenetics. We have the power to positively impact the other 95%.

I picked up on two overarching common denominators across the (7) pillars:

  1. Each pillar improves health by lowering stress that causes inflammation and disease.
  2. Anyone can choose to make these pillars part of their lives, if they have the information.

Dr. Chopra talked about the link between choice, awareness, self realization and ‘flow’, a state we experience when our nervous system is finely tuned. As he did, the critical role that mindfulness plays in overall wellbeing was underscored. I read through my notes and reflected on his words into the wee hours of that night. I woke up understanding that my mission as a mindfulness coach had never been so clear or validated. I grabbed my journal and jotted down these three truths:

  • When we have knowledge, understanding and awareness we have the power to choose. I help people develop awareness through knowledge and practice that empowers them with choice.
  • Stress overtakes us if we allow it. I empower courageous people to reset from stress, tune into their potential and thrive.
  • The connection between body, mind and consciousness is ours to optimize and activate. By making that choice, we have the power to control how well we are and how well we live. My work helps people optimize their mind-body-consciousness connection.

Four months later, all of the scientific data points he shared are still here, at the forefront of my mind. Dr. Chopra’s lecture was a bucket list item for me. I am changed by what he shared. I am emboldened by the power we hold to be well and thrive. I am optimistic as I think about the profound capacity awareness and choice hold to change our health and the way we experience our lives.

*If you’re ready to step into your power and change your life, let’s talk. 

Why Mindfulness and A Healthy Vagus Nerve Help You Reset From Stress

Why Mindfulness and A Healthy Vagus Nerve Help You Reset From Stress

We feel it, talk about it, and tolerate it. We adapt to it and accept it as ‘normal.’ In the background, stress is silently wreaking havoc on our minds, bodies and lives. Of course, life can be stressful. The way we respond to stress is the difference between surviving and thriving. The problem is too many of us don’t understand how stress works. We don’t understand that we have can reset from stress, manage it and even reduce the amount of negative stress we experience. I’d bet every dime I have that if more of us knew these things, our mental health landscape would dramatically improve.  

In this post, you’ll learn: 

  • A basic overview of what stress is
  • What’s happening in your body when you’re stressed
  • (5) everyday choices you can make to reset from stress and manage it to start thriving 

No matter how many carefree smiles you see on social media, you’re not alone. The World Health Organization calls stress the health epidemic of the 21st century and there’s good reason. When negative stress becomes your set point, it can lead to serious bi-products like anxiety, poor mental and physical health, broken sleep, workplace burnout and even death. This type of sustained stress interferes with your quality of life and your ability to thrive. But it doesn’t have to.

You have the power to reset from stress, manage it better and thrive. 

Resetting from stress and managing it starts with a basic understanding of how stress works in your body and mind. Bu understanding a few key points, you have the power to improve your holistic health and your overall life. 

How we respond to stress determines how well we are mentally and physically.

In simplest terms, stress is your mind-body response to something external that you perceive as threatening, dangerous, or harmful. In my life-coaching practice, resetting from stress is a goal for many of my clients.  When I ask them,  “How does stress feel in your body?”  They tell me things like:

“My heart races…My head spins. I can’t think clearly.. I get cold and shaky.. My stomach hurts…I feel like I can’t breathe.”

This all makes perfect sense because the connection between the body and mind is irrefutable.

When your mind is under stress, your body sends you somatic red flags (physical warning)  that something is out of balance. 

That something is your autonomic nervous system. When you feel the red flags, that’s your cue to take action because this system regulates all of your super important involuntary functions like respiration, heart rate, blood pressure and digestion. There are two systems within that system that I’ll cover here, the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems. 

Negative stress cues your Sympathetic nervous system (S for stress). This side of the system is responsible for your flight, fight, freeze response. It’s like an air marshal on constant alert for danger.

The Parasympathetic nervous system is its peaceful counterpart. (P for peace.) This is your relaxation control center. When it comes to your nervous system, it’s the pilot you want flying the plane. When you cue this system, something called your vagus nerve kicks in, slows everything down and jump starts all sorts of internal magic that tells your body “All is well.”

How stimulating the vagus nerve helps you reset and manage stress.

The vagus nerve is a major player in the parasympathetic nervous system.  (FUN PARTY FACT: It’s often called ‘the wandering nerve’ because well, it wanders from your brain right down to your belly, touching almost every hollow and solid organ you’ve got.) It’s the main relaxation nerve and the star of the show when it comes to resetting and managing stress. Bringing this all together is where mindfulness comes in. In simplest terms, mindfulness is paying attention on purpose and being with whatever you observe, without judgement. Here’s an example:

You body sends you the red flags. Instead of reacting, you PBA:

  1. Pause and connect with the source of stress
  2. Breathe slowly, into the belly, until you feel your heart rate slow down
  3. Assess how you want to respond. Response and reaction are very different things.

Mindfulness allows you to put some space between you and the source of stress. From this place, you can learn and respond instead of react. The more you practice, the better equipped you’ll be to manage stress in the future.

6) everyday mindful practices to boost your vagus nerve health:

  1. Breathing. Long slow belly breaths frequently throughout your day are magical when it comes to stimulating your vagus nerve.
  2. Meditate: Meditation is medicine. Whether your practice on your own, with an app or at a meditation center near you- the benefits of meditation when it comes to resetting from stress, are crystal clear. 5-10 minutes when you wake up and before you go to bed is a great way to get started.
  3. Chill: When the flames of stress are burning high, cool your system down. Place an icepack on the back of your neck or belly. If it’s possible for you, close your eyes. In 15-30 seconds, your vagus nerve will begin to work its magic. You’ll feel your heart rate slow and your breathing relax.
  4. Connect: This could be with people you love or connecting with something that brings you joy like a hobby, taking a picnic in the park, playing a sport or visiting a place that gives you good vibes.
  5. Listen: Music is powerful. Grab your headphones and tune into something that makes you smile and want to tap your toes.  Neuroscience Research recently published findings in Frontiers reporting the positive impact of binaural beats when it comes to reducing stress and inducing relaxation.
  6. Move: Exercise is good for you (body, mind and soul). Period. Get your bootie out of your chair and move it, move it.

*If you’re ready to reset from stress and thrive, let’s talk about how I can empower you through mindfulness-based life coaching

 

How Mindfulness Can Help You Overcome Negative Thinking

How Mindfulness Can Help You Overcome Negative Thinking

Here’s a stunner. We have roughly 50,000 thoughts every single day and, scientists say on average, about 80% of the 50,000 daily thoughts we have are negative. Talk about a busy mind!

The way I see it, these data points represent incredible opportunity as I think about mental and physical wellbeing. Here’s why. We are in control of what and how we think which means have the power to manage negative thoughts AND replace them with positive thoughts. That means, we have the power to change our health and our life, once we understand how and make the choice to practice.

Negative tend to breed more negative thoughts. Ruminating on them sets up a cycle I call “black hole thinking” that pumps up your stress levels and floods your body with cortisol and adrenaline- the “Oh sh** protection mode” chemicals. As a general rule, this is not where you want to be. As the cortisol and adrenaline course through your system, they increase inflammation in your body and hijack your cognition. They also create chemical packages (emotions) like fear, self doubt, cynicism, and panic that cause you to feel depleted, confused, stuck- physically and mentally.

Breaking The Cycle

You can manage negative thoughts by disrupting the cycle and adopting a new thinking pattern. These actions rewire your brain, empower you to be present, healthier and create life enriching possibilities. Replacing negative thoughts with more positive and supportive thoughts is a choice that’s within your control. When your thinking is working for you, your life changes because the lens you use to view the world becomes one of possibilities. 

Here are three steps to get you started:

  1. Step 1: AWARENESS: Become aware of your thoughts and the quality of your thoughts.
  2. Step 2: CURIOSITY: Sit with the thoughts that are negative, scary and uncomfortable. Replace judgement with curiosity. This step helps you understand where your thoughts are coming from, how valid they and how those thoughts are impacting you.
  3. Step 3: INTENTIONALITY: Make a conscious choice to direct your attention. For instance, will you choose to stay with your negative thoughts? Or, will you choose to replace them with more positive and supportive ones that will benefit you and your life?

The Power of Positive Thinking

Meeting your thoughts with awareness, and intentionality is a courageous choice and it takes practice. This is mindfulness in action and it’s well worth the effort. Positive thinking produces the good vibes chemicals like serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin which create balance, harmony, and happiness that support your mental and physical wellbeing.

Mindfulness empowers you to BE WITH your thoughts and observe them without absorbing them which makes it easier to navigate whatever life offers up with more ease, clarity, and acceptance. 

Here are three of the questions I offer my clients who want to start thinking more positively:

  • What’s the root of the negative thought?
  • How is that thought impacting you?
  • What else do you know about it?

I help my clients develop neural pathways through mindfulness based life coaching, that empower them to reset, step into their power and thrive. If you’re ready to change your thinking and your life, let’s talk.